ROWMAN & LITTLEFIELD Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life

Well written, and very relevant to the issues in question. Well worth the money and time to read it

Found this very useful for navigating my relationships with loved ones who have one of the mentioned personality disorders in the book. Was struck by how accurately this book described my character traits as a caretaker and how these traits develop from the events that happen in childhood. Many of these childhood events that were mentioned in the book did indeed feature in my own childhood. It felt like someone had written my life story since it was so accurate.However, the book is very helpful in giving you ways of managing these relationships without compromising your happiness and wellbeing. Would really recommend anyone who finds themselves constantly attracting people with either or both of these personality disorders as I was doing.

Very helpful and practical book if one has to deal with this topic in his own life.

Je n’ai pas grand chose à rajouter sur certains commentaires que j’ai lu (Olympe en particulier qui rejoint tout à fait ma perception but others in English too).J’aurais voulu trouver ce livre bien avant.Une vrai révélation, offrant à la fois une meilleure compréhension et compassion sans jugement sur la personne atteinte de NPD/BPD (il y a tellement de livres stigmatisants et comme lu dans un long commentaire le terme ‘pervers narcissiste’ est porteur de confusion), mais surtout un éclairage important sur le ‘caretaker’, ses propres failles et points communs avec la personne atteinte du trouble de personnalité.Chacun aura sa propre et unique expérience, mais personnellement, même si le futur reste incertain, ce livre m’a permit de me remettre en cause, de faire face à quelques dures réalités de ma propre attitude.

What a great book.Easy to read, simple in explanation YET packs the punch that is needed to see the reality of the situation one can become embroiled in and how to leave or deal with it to ensure you are devoid of guilt and NOT drained to the point of exhaustion.It has helped me with my mother and the man I was involved with.I chose to leave as the physical repercussions along with mental and emotional pain was quite literally killing me. Due to in part, being familiar with these thoughts/feelings/reactions since a child-I was in a way- uncomfortably used/resigned to it. I actually had to put the book down 3 days into it as the truth of the whole situation made me feel sick to the stomach.I'm glad I have now finished it because it has enabled me to make the decision that was desperately needed without blaming anyone or thing.To actually feel compassion for the individual but NOT responsible for or to them.I thank the author from the bottom of my heart as I feel absolutely able to go on with life (excitedly TBH) free of guilt and awake to the mechanisms of these individuals.THIS BOOK IS WORTH it's weight in GOLD!