Winning at the Game of Wife: How to Make Your Woman Love You, Want You, & Adore You, Like Never Before

Mr. Horning's well presented philosophy is best described as a "how to" guide for men to bring their "A-Game" to their marriage -- just like we men generally do in our careers and other competitive aspects of life. He shows men how to let go of the "need to understand", and to embrace the inherent "polarity" of the sexes. This is presented such that the male-female differences are seen as positive attributes to reinforce, instead of something that needs to be changed. Mr. Horning also focuses rather extensively on how to bring back passion and sexual excitement. His writing style is simple and straightforward, with a lot of valuable and pragmatic insights packed inside.

I recommend this book, I found it to be informative and interesting to learn on how to apply this on my marriage, which is not in good standing, I hope that my wife gives me another chance, but if not, I know that my new relationship will benefit from my learning

I found the book very helpful . At times when my wife and I have issues that are difficult to solve I've learned to understand her needs as well as mine. The book describes many situations that do occur in a marriage and defines the attitude necessary for an amicable resolution. I feel it has showed us how to enhance our relationship. Keeping the book in a handy spot and picking it up for spare time reading will keep you tuned up for winning at the game of marriage.

Men (and women? absolutely), get this book and you can throw away your whole collection of self-help, motivational, marriage counseling, and improving sex life books and fire your therapist. The Author is very insightful and "hits the nail on the head" with this great read. It's concise, cogent, with some great edgy humor mixed in. It's provocative to say the least. You will not be disappointed. James Perrin - Fair Oaks, CA

This book was horrible... all about gender roles... gross

Top takeaways:Ask these questions before:- Is this making my woman feel loved?- Will she feel more honored and respected as a result of my words or actions?- Is this an act of devotion and worship?- Let go of the need to “understand.” - Women are mysterious so just enjoy what she shares with you.- Do your share around the house.- Give her the gift of consistent re-creation—an activity, hobby, or place she can go to rebuild and rejuvenate herself physically, emotionally, and spiritually.- Know, understand, and support her dream(s).- “What women most want is the power to choose for themselves.”- It’s not enough to just ask her. You need to truly want to know her answer. If you don’t truly want to know, act as if you do.Here are some questions that will help you get to the bottom of what your woman wants:- Honey, what can I do to take a load off you? •- Sweetie, what would make your day today? •- Baby, what feels best? When I do this or when I do this? •- Muffin, because I am crazy about you, I want to know what makes you feel loved. I also want to know what I might do that makes you feel unloved so I can stop doing that. •- Love of my life, I want to know what your hopes and dreams are, because I want to help make them a reality. If you make not listening a habit, she will stop telling you what she wants and stop giving you clues.WHEN SHE SAYS SHE DOESN'T WANT TO TALK... She wants to be pursued and COAXED.- Show her that you are in control of a situation while supporting her ability to choose for herself; this demonstrates that she can trust you to take care of her. - “Hey baby, I know we’ve got a good marriage, but I want to take it up a notch. I want to be a better husband and learn to meet your needs better. I want our marriage to be the pinnacle experience in our lives."- Work to embody everything that love is and implies including honor, respect, patience, kindness, forgiveness, trust, compassion, commitment, and presence.- Support and fill your partner’s needs. Make sure you know what their current versions of these needs are. This means you’ve got to ask them. You need to know what has to happen for her to feel loved. You need to know what has to happen for her to feel appreciated. You need to know what has to happen for her to feel significant. You need to know what has to happen for her to feel physically attracted to you. And remember, it doesn’t matter whether you agree with what she needs or whether you share the same values. Her needs don’t have to make sense. The secret is to find out what your woman wants/needs and then give it to her. Period! If you do this, you will own her! This is what it is all about. Sound good?- Keep the polarity alive. Celebrate your differences; focus on what’s beautiful and ignore what irritates you. Keep growing and evolving yourself as a human being and she will always be wondering what’s around the next corner. Nurture those attributes in yourself that exemplify your manhood. Take control of your life and start getting things done. Get control of your finances, take your fitness level up a notch, and get that honey-do list caught up for once.- Have fun together. Fun is what you had before you got married. Having fun together gave you a positive association with each other, an association that compelled you to want to be together all the time. You’ve heard the old saying that “a couple that plays together stays together.” It couldn’t be truer.- Listen to her as if what she has to say is the word of God. It will show her that, in that moment, she is the most important person

This book gave me great insights into what really makes a relationship successful, and I found it to be a very valuable tool to improve my relationship on a daily basis. I especially liked the author's wife's comments that are included as well, as it gives a good perspective of female psychology :)

I loved the humor in the messages, and any couple would benefit from the guidance provided in this book. My fear is the men that need it the most, won't read the book! I gave my copy to my daughter to read in hopes that she can get her long term boyfriend to read it too. I just bought another copy for my nephew. It certainly can't hurt to give these kids the tools to make their lives together better.

I love this book. Clear, practical and well-written (I should know, I write for a living), it contains great advice for both men and women. It is an easy read and makes you feel really good about how the small and simple things can turn any relationship around or make it better if it is already okay. A great reminder for me about why my guy is such a great guy. Thanks James

I bought this for my husband and he gave it back to me. I'm still trying. I've been saying these things to him for five years and he still doesn't get it. I thought reading a book written by a guy would help.