Mate: Become the Man Women Want

Description

The #1 bestselling pioneer of "fratire" and a leading evolutionary psychologist team up to create the dating book for guys. Whether they conducted their research in life or in the lab, experts Tucker Max and Dr. Geoffrey Miller have spent the last 20+ years learning what women really want from their men, why they want it, and how men can deliver those qualities. The short answer: become the best version of yourself possible, then show it off. It sounds simple, but it's not. If it were, Tinder would just be the stuff you use to start a fire. Becoming your best self requires honesty, self-awareness, hard work and a little help. Through their website and podcasts, Max and Miller have already helped over one million guys take their first steps toward Ms. Right. They have collected all of their findings in Mate , an evidence-driven, seriously funny playbook that will teach you to become a more sexually attractive and romantically successful man, the right way: No "seduction techniques," No moralizing, No bullshit. Just honest, straightforward talk about the most ethical, effective way to pursue the win-win relationships you want with the women who are best for you. Much of what they've discovered will surprise you, some of it will not, but all of it is important and often misunderstood. So listen up, and stop being stupid! Review: Complete self-development of being the man you want to be always - This book I will say it's not about getting women but about becoming the man that every woman wants. It's completely self development. No dating stuff works, but only reality makes difference,and that is all this book is about Review: Smart, scientific, witty, EFFECTIVE. - Like any young man trying to navigate adulthood and dating, I have checked out many sources for information on how to deal with improving my dating life. I have read The Game, Robert Greene's Art of Seduction, pickup artist forums and on an on. They all had useful bits of information and valuable advice interspersed with ambiguous anecdotes, vague tips and in some cases, frankly unethical and ineffective information. This book provides ethical, scientifically-proven and effective ACTIONABLE information in a step-by-step and easy to understand way. The book starts off by explaining the female perspective on dating. Already, it is different from many dating books I have read (with the exception of probably Art of Seduction). If the reason for this is not immediately apparent, it is quickly explained and thoroughly examined to give men insight into the often misunderstood reasons behind many of women's actions and thoughts. It then goes on to outline the fundamental, underlying principle of attractiveness and the main 5 ways that male attractiveness is determined. I'm not going to sit here and give an entire outline of the book, but all - and I mean all of this book is based on scientific research, mostly from an evolutionary perspective to make the advice given applicable in every culture, for the vast majority of women and with a depth of understanding that is never seen in this sphere. I mean the references section is CHOCK FULL of scientific journal and books, more than any book I have seen including university textbooks. It's actually kind of ridiculous. Another key reason why this book is so good is that it is written with both empathy for men given the hardships of dating and the confusion dating without understanding can be, and a clear firm voice that forces men to take responsibility for their own attractiveness and dating destiny(pretty often chastising them for dumb behaviour common to young men). They incorporate so many things from different sources that will help with dating, but also have a greater impact on just plain quality of life (Carol Dweck's Growth Mindset, benefits of meditation, explanation of why sleep is important, how to have better mental health etc.) My only complaints were a few too many references to one of the authors and his life for my tastes(though I understand the reason why) and though there is always a scientific basis for the advice, the underlying principle isn't fully explained where it is brought up. I imagine this is to keep the book length reasonable and frankly, the authors do make it clear that becoming the man women want will take some independent work. Do yourself and the people around you a favour and buy this book, both for you and struggling men in your life. Make the world a better place.