--- product_id: 1622052 title: "Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew" brand: "sherrie eldridge" price: "KD 8.19" currency: KWD in_stock: true reviews_count: 9 url: https://www.desertcart.com.kw/products/1622052-twenty-things-adopted-kids-wish-their-adoptive-parents-knew store_origin: KW region: Kuwait --- # Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew **Brand:** sherrie eldridge **Price:** KD 8.19 **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew by sherrie eldridge - **How much does it cost?** KD 8.19 with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.com.kw](https://www.desertcart.com.kw/products/1622052-twenty-things-adopted-kids-wish-their-adoptive-parents-knew) ## Best For - sherrie eldridge enthusiasts ## Why This Product - Trusted sherrie eldridge brand quality - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew ## Images ![Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/612kILLn6jL.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ 5.0 out of 5 stars Vital read for all adoptive parents. *by R***H on Reviewed in the United States on June 13, 2024* I LOVED this book. That being said, it was tough to read because of the emotional weightiness. I felt dejected after the first chapter and even took a break to cry and vent with my husband. This book has provoked lots of great conversations between my husband and I on how to parent our adoptive kiddos better. It’s helped us communicate effectively with our adoptive kiddos and reminded us the importance of keeping their birth families always a part of our conversation. You definitely should read it if you’re an adoptive parent though anyone effected by adoption would do good to read it as well! ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ 5.0 out of 5 stars Provocative, disputed, but still thought provoking and very valuable *by A***. on Reviewed in the United States on August 25, 2018* Provocative, disputed depending on one's experience or perspective, but still thought provoking and very valuable.Appears grounded in the author's own experience. Research/theory cited, but also a personal reflection on the author's experience.But if the issue is relevant or of interest to you, this is a reasonable text. It is thorough, structured and informally, conversationally written.It does take a problem identification approach and thus comes across negative and to such an extent one may even seriously reconsider adopting a child of any age. (I'm beginning the process to adopt with a focus on older children/youth/teenagers and it scared me a bit.) I think that would be unfortunate, actually tragic.I don't think that is an outcome the author intends. I think she intends to be realistic and thorough as opposed to negative and discouraging and is fundamentally pro-adoption.There are some practical suggestions that should be avoided. While art and art therapy is evidenced based as being very helpful and facilitating, instructing a young child for a task to draw a picture of her/himself and then draw a hole in the center to visualize the psychological and relational hole in her fundamental self and life circumstance and personal history is really not supportable. If a child produces that kind of picture(s), unsolicited, that is clinical content and should be treated as such.My position is a family, whatever that structure looks like, but it always is fundamentally constructed of one established adult who is committed and connected in a permanent, loving, relational, reliable, expressive way to the child/youth and their safety, healing and growth, unconditionally, is ALWAYS better than a group home and foster care.I would read this as a 'for consideration or general awareness' in terms of some of the challenges that MAY arise for some adopted children, but possibly not for all children. There are just too many intervening and influencing factors, including the fundamental personality, psychology, and specific pre/post adoption experience of the adopted child/adult, as well as you, the adopting parent, whoever you are. All in all, a solid book addressing some powerful issues. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐ 4.0 out of 5 stars the truth about the loss but not enough of the positive *by A***T on Reviewed in the United States on June 20, 2005* I am now an adult. I was adopted as an infant. This is the first time I have seen in print many of the feelings of loss and abandonment being given up created in me. These are really feelings that should be experienced, experiences that should be grieved. The author advocates for openness about adoption, which I think is the solution: Don't pretend there wasn't an abandonment (even if it was for good reasons) and don't hide adoption like it is something to be ashamed of or over-do the opposite by labelling the adoptee "special."The weakness of this book, as others have written, is that it dwells on the negative. There is a lot of good that comes out of adoption. It is probably the most important good thing that has happened to me to help make me who I am today. And most adoptees are like me in that they are accepted into loving families who are open about the adoption and do the best they can to make it day by day.The author at times seems to be overly dramatizing the loss that adopted children feel. But this is likely intentional. This is, afterall, a book about what adopted children wish their adoptive parents knew. I *do* wish my adoptive parents had known that the feelings of loss and abandonment would be there... I wish I could have put words to what I was feeling earlier and to have known that I was not the only person to have such feelings, that I was, oddly enough, normal. We all dealt with it, but it would have been easier for me (and I would have been a more pleasant child) had we known to expect this issue instead of waiting for me to discover it myself while exploring my anger and seeming unwillingness to get too close emotionally to anyone.So I recommend this book for adoptive parents and those considering adoption. That said, it should not be read or considered in isolation. Adoption is a positive thing that can change a child's life much for the better. Listening to the author's explanation of what an adopted child feels should not make anyone afraid of adopting; rather, it should help them recognize what their child is experiencing. For, as the author says so nicely, the child is going to experience the loss whether the adoptive parent knows it will happen, believes it will happen, wants it to happen, or not. Like so many other painful things in life, understanding and coping with being given away by one's mother at birth can make the adopted child a stronger, more empathic individual. Failing to do so can make him or her angry, unhappy, and generally disgruntled. Much better to deal with the issues than pretend they don't exist. --- ## Why Shop on Desertcart? - 🛒 **Trusted by 1.3+ Million Shoppers** — Serving international shoppers since 2016 - 🌍 **Shop Globally** — Access 737+ million products across 21 categories - 💰 **No Hidden Fees** — All customs, duties, and taxes included in the price - 🔄 **15-Day Free Returns** — Hassle-free returns (30 days for PRO members) - 🔒 **Secure Payments** — Trusted payment options with buyer protection - ⭐ **TrustPilot Rated 4.5/5** — Based on 8,000+ happy customer reviews **Shop now:** [https://www.desertcart.com.kw/products/1622052-twenty-things-adopted-kids-wish-their-adoptive-parents-knew](https://www.desertcart.com.kw/products/1622052-twenty-things-adopted-kids-wish-their-adoptive-parents-knew) --- *Product available on Desertcart Kuwait* *Store origin: KW* *Last updated: 2026-05-16*