Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man (Kerner)

I enjoyed reading this book. There are lots of helpful tidbits that have spiced my marriage up. If you’re on the fence, I’d say get it!

Great content. Very clever writing style. Practical. Informative. Excellent for men or women. Loved it!

I was very cautious when reading and thought that it was a homosexual situation, but was explained in very good way to understand. Thank you Ian for the info.

This book was exactly what I expected based on the reviews I'd read -- a combination of male sexual psychology, ideas for creating and maintaining desire in your relationship, and physical techniques. It's very well written, the tone is friendly and humorous, and it's devoid of offensive slang terms for body parts that have offended reviewers of other sex books. I just finished it, found it all fascinating, and will probably start re-reading it tomorrow and taking notes!Best parts for me: (a) I realize now that my husband and I (who are in our early 40s) are very reserved and could be more creative *outside* the bedroom in terms of flirting, being provocative, etc. I wasn't always this way, and I need to get re-acquainted with my 19-year-old self! (b) I learned the bases for techniques I'd picked up in the past. It's amazing to me that though I've never had any complaints, there was so much I didn't truly understand and therefore wasn't doing optimally. In my experience, trying to get this information from one's partner directly is like pulling teeth; men don't seem to want to complain or explain, and women end up mired in the dark. This book at least pointed me to the light switch.Anyway, lots of things to try, physical and otherwise, and I can't wait. Hubby has a copy of She Comes First waiting on his nightstand as well. Thank you so much, Dr. Kerner.

After reading this book and trying some techniques my guy actually said “that was a good BJ” he’s never said that before so I think this book is somewhat helpful. I just wish it had more techniques and less commentary.

This is a shorter read than expected and not really the 'step by step' instruction guide that the companion book 'She Comes First' is which was mildly disappointing however the author is right in that men are simply easier to please physically and don't really need 'instructions' to 'get it right' the first time. However this was an excellent book and I would certainly recommend it to ladies everywhere who feel they might need some new ideas to spice up their love life or even some place to start from. This book is more about how to make your (the female) attitude compelling and desirable to your man and capture his attention in a healthy way for everyone to make it a more satisfying experience for you both. It's also about explaining and ultimately understanding what makes the male libido tick and how you can focus on his fantasies to get him pumped up. The suggestions in the book certainly work. :) I would give this 100% thumbs up.

Let's face it, we all can use a few new ideas or reminders when it comes to our lovemaking skills. This is a well-written, entertaining and useful book. It leaves out the usual 'meet your man at the door wearing nothing but a smile' garbage. That stuff is not practical for busy couples who both stagger home after a hard day's work. This book is about how to make the most of quality time in the bedroom and how to prompt your partner to respond to your own desires. It is also a good refresher for those of us who are older or resuming our romance now the kids are gone. If you are looking for exotic sex tricks, this is not the book for you. However, if you are seeking an intelligent look at how to actually make lovemaking better, this book is an excellent choice.

After many years of marriage I really did not know some of the information in this bookNow you know how to sexually get your man's attention the bedroom

The author is not only an expert in his knowledge, but uses available science to help us comprehend. He takes a ridiculously taboo topic and sanely assures us all its ok. I've been in love a long time, nevertheless, I've picked up a few ideas I look forward to trying as well.

Great book, recommendable to any woman who wants to learn more about how to foster passion in a relationship. A must-read!

This has been a very inspirational book for me. Always a little shy when it comes to matter male this helped me answer some questions I'm too shy to ask - and at 51 it's about time I had some questions answered. My husband is a happy test subject! The book is written in a friendly easy way to read. If this is a subject you're interested in then read the book.

Fantastic book. Great information by someone who really knows what they are talking about in this world of uneducated fear.

This book is not poor in and out. Interesting and useful for example is Kerner's advice, that a whole day, spent together leisurely and in positive excitement, can be regarded as a foreplay, or that one should not feel embarassed about ones sexual fantasies, because they are nothing more than a mean to turn oneself on.But it has one decisive handicap:When he writes, that the specific male sexual inhibition is caused by an ubiquitous male tendency to protect the "family jewels", from being "chipped off", Kerner starts from the wrong theoretical assumption, namely the good old Freudian castration complex (although not calling it by name).For example he claims that a naked man who searches his way through an unknown, dark, densely furnished room, always protects his genitals with one hand. Personally I can not confirm this. Women never missed the opportunity to tell me how typical male I am, but obviously not in this respect: I prefer to have both hands free in case I stumble upon something.This outdated theoretical starting point makes the book all in all contradictory and confused.For example Kerner can not solve the paradox why men on one hand are said to be anxious about the safety of their private parts and on the other hand, beginning with masturbation in puberty, are said to be exclusively fixated on their penis if they want to experience sexual pleasure. At the end of Kerners book it even turns out that it is much more difficult for the ambitious female lover to trick her partner into anal stimulation of his "male G-Spot", which only marginally belongs to the traditional "family jewels", than to get his allowance for various experiments with his most precious piece.In a subtle way, hidden behind a "how to spice your sex-life"-tone, Kerner suggests the female reader that male sexuality per se is defect, and that she has to act like a professional therapist, or worse, like a skilled machinist, to improve things. In the last chapters, Kerner's advices are reading like directions for handling optimally a complicated machine, sometimes even unconsciously comical, neglecting the real male problem, namely to overcome the inclination to treat the own body like a machine.Replacing the increasingly successful female struggle with the delicateness of the own sexual response by the demand also to provide her partner with an "earth shattering orgasm" predetermines another loss of unembarassement on both sides.For a woman who just wants to be informed about male sexuality and, concerning technical details, wants to rely on her own fantasy, intuition and authentic tenderness, the "Hite Report" about this topic is in my opinion the still unequaled classic.