ADHD & Us: A Couple's Guide to Loving and Living With Adult ADHD

There’s a LOT of great info and examples of different types of add interaction and ones that you have with someone neurotypical. I am very pleased with the book.. I’m a weird reader.. I skin and highlight first with these groups and immediately, I felt seen lmao.. for real it sounds cheesy but I kinda did.. my partner is medicated for his adhd and he’s a guy so it does effect him differently.. my mom is super OCD with things and cannot understand where I come from. I think this is a great book for ANY people that have had to shared their lives with each other whilst being effected by add. It touches on organized chaos and communication, etc. Worth the buy!

This book is perfect for any couple where one person has ADHD. It brings a lot of attention to how their mind works and their thought process which can easily cause disagreements in relationships. I found myself highlighting and taking notes. It opened the door for more conversations, less arguments and less stress. It allowed me to understand my boyfriend more.

I bought this to try and save my relationship with my newly diagnosed adhd fiancé. He won’t even look at it let alone pick it up. I read through it though. In my opinion if both partners really want to save their relationship, this may be a helpful tool in understanding each other. If you or your partner are using ADHD as an excuse to just be mean and hurtful, this is not for you. I should’ve bought He’s Just Not That Into You.

Helped me and my girlfriend not harm one another due to our brain differences

I was diagnosed with ADHD at 13 but came from a heavily neurodivergent family, so it never occurred to me how it would affect my relationship, everyone I knew was like me! When I got married it was a different story, luckily my husband is a problem solver and this book was a fun and interesting insight into the best ways to make us work, but it’s a great guide for both neurodivergent and neurotypical partners to see how the other half is perceiving the relationship and how to navigate pitfalls.

This is one of the most helpful books I've read. The author provides ample education, resources, and tools. Highly recommend this book!

I felt that most of the basic advice and insight in this book was useful, however the writing tends to infantilize those of us with ADHD. I know there's a common conception that we tend to be "childlike" but as a grown woman, the idea of using colored construction paper to increase my accountability and other such strategies put me off the book. A lot of the strategies struck me as fairly ineffective and juvenile, actually, but the chapter intros and non-strategy sections were fine.

This book was an excellent read about what it's like being in a relationship where one partner has ADHD and the other person doesn't. I particularly like the layout of the book, where each chapter is focused on a common issue/conflict that occurs in these relationship. Each chapter then goes in the prospective from the ADHD person and then the neurotypical person, along with providing strategies on how each person can help the other out. This is a very excellent deviation from a lot of the other ADHD books I looked at as it's looking at all sides of the situation, and less of a negative "here's all the bad things about ADHD and how to fix them" which I see a lot of others focus on. But it really helped both my partner and I improve communication and our relationship overall. One, very minor aside, I'm not big on "games" to improve communication or relationships. Each chapter typically has one of these, like write ideas on a sticky note and pass them back and forth. Or play catch with a ball while each person states one thing positive about the relationship. If these work for you, there are a good number of these, if not, the concept behind the activity is good, I'm just not one for doing these types of activities.