Your Erroneous Zones: Escape negative thinking and take control of your life

To live happy and fulfilling life BE YOURSELF.Don’t change for anyone.We are conditioned by school of society to be and to behave according to others needs.The author wrote:“Give up having to have a reason for everything you do.When someone ask you WHY ,remember that you don’t have to come up with reasonable answer that will satisfy them.You can do what you decide just because you want to.It was quick read for me maybe because I am passionate about this topic. It’s really therapeutic because you constantly read about YOU being the most important person in YOUR life ,which is not how people are concerned for life.We have to be good,nice,do our best for others not to ourselves.The author wrote about inner security“This is the only lasting security, the only real security . Things can break down , a depression can wipe out your money, your house can be repossessed , but YOU , you can be a rock of self -esteem .You can believe so much in YOU and YOUR internal strength that things or others will be seen as mere pleasant but superfluous adjuncts to your life.”This book and the other books of Dr Dyer are really worth your time.

This book is simply one of the few best ones I have read on how to change your thinking and begin to live a more fulfilled life. For me, the highlight of the book is summed up in the "FOOL" ("Focussing On Others Line") model which is on p152. The model is a short straight horizontal line with "Blame" below the line and on the left of it, and "Hero Worship" above the line and to the right of it.The model drives home the fact that most "erroneous" thinking ("self-destructive behaviour")tend to occur when we foolishly look outside of ourselves (approval) for an explanation of how we should feel, behave or react to events in our lives. Instead, Dr Dyer strongly advises that we should not focus on these external factors ("Blame"-"Hero Worship") but to constantly remind ourselves that it is not what people think, say or do that should bother us (that's their own cup of tea) - but how we react to these in our daily lives!The book has all the strategies to be adopted to overcome getting caught-up in the same old self-destructive patterns of "blaming -- hero worshiping" erroneous zone. With this book I have discovered for myself that "blaming" is at the heart of most, if not all, faulty thinking or thinking errors we make (e.g. shoulding, approval-seeking, demand for justice and fairness, comparing, etc). Therefore, to take control of your life, be your own hero and live each moment for what it is...This book has been in print since 1976 (some 35 years now) and I can see why it may yet continue to be demanded by readers in the next 50 years plus to come! A treasure to have...highly recommended.

I was handed this book 35 years ago when at a particularly low point in my life and after the first few pages a light came on which has never gone out. I have lost count of the numbers of copies I have bought for other people as I think everybody can take something from it. It gives us the tools to be in total control of the way we feel, in complete contrast to the messages in our culture, and become free. Wow! How about that? It enables you to make your life as successful as you want it to be, and is particularly good in helping you sort out your relationships. I firmly believe it should be part of the school curriculum; the earlier these tools are grabbed the sooner happiness can be the centre of life! The only downside is that watching Eastenders and Coronation Street becomes pretty difficult as your compassion for those poor miserable souls runs out pretty quick! You also become aware of how harmful the messages from programmes like that can be. It is as relevant today, and will continue to be so, as when it was first published. If in doubt just buy it - you'll have no regrets.

Potentially life changing.What exactly do I mean by that?In my opinion there are three things you can do with a book.(1) You can put it on the to do list. In which case this book ISN'T for you.(2) You can read it like a novel from cover to cover and congratulate yourself on reading another self help book from cover to cover.But never actually implement any of the suggestions contained within the book. Sorry this book ISN'T for you either.(3) Read the book a chapter at a time and devote yourself to implementing ALL the suggestions in the book regardless how difficult you think they are.If you have reached the point in your life when you have had enough of being stuck with the same old same old. Then this book IS for you.Get ready to commit to eliminating old habits and ways of being in the world because it will take commitment and time.When you read the book you will feel it was written specifically for you. Be prepared to be ruthlessly honest with yourself and those around you. This book will give you the required tools IF and only IF you are prepared to use them.If you decide to buy the book and you are in category three then I wish you well my friend. You have started a journey into a better future.Commit yourself and stick with it, you wont regret it.

I liked the open way in which the subject was addressed. As a lifelong people pleaser I am looking for ways to make that a thing of the past. Wish me luck.

I read this book years ago when it first came out, and was fascinated, and it was an eye opener on how to make positive changes in one'slife..Therefore I bought it for a re read.Still good but having read the later similar studies since then (i e those of Chopra, who praises Dyer's work, Tölle) may have made me feel I have moved on a bit. Perhaps it is best for a "first read" for someone looking for a way to change their life and reach fulfilment and happiness. It will always be a classic in its style

The media could not be loaded. Such a must read book... super fast delivery...very happy with my purchase

I would not really say my copy was “used, very good” more “used, well thumbed”!The book was less than the postage, and looks like it’s more pre used than pre loved.

Life changing perspective. Great read!

Um livro para ser lido várias vezes em diferentes etapas da vida.

Ha llegado bien embalado y en perfecto estado

excellent

Un libro que todos tenemos que leer para crecer