Hay House Business What's in It for Them? - 9 Genius Networking Principles to Get What You Want by Helping Others Get What They Want

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I love, love, love this book. I read it the first day it came out in one day, and then returned to read it a second time and take eleven pages of notes.I paid $24.29 to get into the mind and mindset of the creator of Genius Network which is one of the most sought-after masterminds for successful entrepreneurs that has a vetting process and a $25,000 starting price tag. Even very successful people get nervous and excited at the idea of speaking at Genius Network events. I remember a well-known female entrepreneurial friend, who managed to create seeming financial freedom in just ten years after starting her online business, talking about how nervous she was to do her fifteen-minute talk. She was nervous because Joe Polish seems to repeatedly get some of the most well-respected entrepreneurs and change-makers in a room together. The brain trust is impressive. As is the structure that they set up at Genius Network to share resources.I was super curious about what I could learn and model now.The book is not only really helpful in terms of understanding human behavior and using win-win principles to create your vision, but it is also really well structured and an easy, enjoyable read.It starts with a hero’s-journey style beginning with a story from the author’s childhood and the loss of his mother at age four. As a mother myself and someone who feels deeply, the book felt like a love letter to his mother. Throughout the book, we get peaks into highs and lows and struggles that come from wanting to alleviate suffering for himself and others that came from this initial human moment. It is both tender and touching to see how love and reducing suffering became a theme in the author’s life.There are too many highlights to try to share to properly do the book justice. Just do yourself a favor and buy it so that you can take action on the tips in it.I will share with you some of my favorites.First of all, the 9 genius networking principles he describes on the book cover each have a chapter of its own that goes more in-depth into each principle.Here they are:The 9 Genius Networking Principles (to Get What You Want by Helping Others Get What They Want) are:1. How Are They Suffering and How Can I Help?2. Invest Time, Attention, Money, Effort, and Energy in Relationships3. Be the Person They Always Answer the Phone For4. Be Useful, Grateful, and Valuable5. Treat Others as They Love to Be Treated6.Avoid Formalities and Be Fun and Memorable (Not Boring)7.Appreciate People8. Give Value on the Spot9.Get as Close to In-Person as You CanMy favorite highlights so are:A quick way to spot a “taker” versus a giver is that you will notice that they aren’t as grateful as givers.Let that one sink in for a minute. It took me years to realize that not everyone has the same good intentions. You will be hard-pressed to find a taker who is consistently grateful.Now, even those of us that have better intentions most of the time to find the highest and best for everyone won’t be grateful all the time. Still, put that frame next to relationships that you have found HALF like the author writes, or hard, annoying, lame, and frustrating (and maybe even downright hurtful and harmful). I bet you can’t find a considerably grateful person in the bunch.Value doesn't have a lot to do with being useful and grateful. As the author writes “value is more about self-worth and self-image than the other two principles are.”As the author writes: “value can start from the same place as gratitude. It can begin with being caring and conscientious about what other people want; the difference, however, is that rather than giving them what they want, a valuable person embodies the essence of whatever those wants are.”This is still one that I am contemplating. It has been one of my life goals to be the essence of love. During the first half of my life, I spent a lot of time overgiving. While that is beautiful, it's not necessarily valuable. It is such a beautiful (repeating) lesson that the more we give to ourselves equally and love ourselves equally, the more valuable we become to the outer world.I am still contemplating the self-image suggestion, because self-image is so often constructed from external validation. We often see ourselves as others see us. These can be dangerous waters to swim in. I think that the go-around to creating value through self-image is creating an image of self that is a full, artistic expression of who we want to be in the world.Sean Stephenson must have been a great example of creating value through self-image. At just three feet tall, he created a persona and congruent self-image of a giant and brought value everywhere he went with that mindset.We really can get ahead and achieve our dreams (no matter when we start) by just being ourselves when we have a giving, appreciative mindset. If we put our lenses on really understanding others and their suffering, we can both create an impact and make it ELF, as the author says, or easy, lucrative, and fun. I think we all need a little more fun after these past few years.I recommend the book. It is packed full of ideas and action steps. It feels like a modern “Win Friends and Influence People.” I hope you use it to win, move a little bit out of any suffering you have, and create the connections, projects, dreams, business, or better tomorrow that you desire. The world needs your gifts and your heart as a giver. <3

Amazing book. Loved it.Some of it you'll read and think, this is blindingly obvious, but why aren't I doing this already!For me it brought home the absolute importance of consciously paying attention and cultivating those important relationships whether personal or professional. It will pay massive dividends for you AND those around you.For example, what if you consciously made it a daily habit to give value (no matter how small) to people in your network every day for the next 5 years? The author asserts that your life and what you could do would be completely transformed. Give value first. I completely get it, and it's changed how I treat others and what I do to try and help them.Give this book a read!

Imagine you’re standing at the edge of the infinite, staring into the void, shining like a sun. Joe Polish’s eyes shine that light like no one I have ever seen. What’s in that for you? That shine translates to this book.What’s In It For Them is illuminating, warming, and igniting. And I am grateful. If you could use some more warmth in your life, if you want to see more opportunities, if you want to stop leaving your potential in the dark, then buy this book right now. You can thank Joe later.

Thank you, Joe, for taking the time to write this book and show the "givers" that it is not only OK but also imperative that they choose who to have around them. The concept of HALFs and ELFs will spare a lot of grief in personal and professional lives, I am sure :-)

I had the pleasure of meeting Joe earlier this year. He’s a really neat dude! He’s very personable and genuine and always sharing smiles.I learned about his book, WHAT’S IN IT FOR THEM, and ordered it right away! It didn’t take long for me to get sucked in. I couldn’t put it down. I took it with me everywhere I went and got in a few pages whenever I could.After reading his book and implementing new strategies and habits I feel more alive! Along with being more optimistic, caring, helpful and excited for life, I found a new level of confidence and drive to peruse my dreams of starting my own fitness brand and community.The best compliment is a referral. If you can kindly pay it forward and show appreciation for all the value he has to offer, get yourself a copy and an extra for a special person in your life.Closing thought: How can we help others? Help them get what they want and you in turn will get what you want too! Practice gratitude. Be a good human.