The Queen's Code Kindle Edition

This book changed my life..my perspective. I could feel my heart soaring as it will with new life, live, curiosity and possibility. I couldn't put it down. I wanted to live every page. I grieved as I saw my past self jump off the pages and I beamed with joy as I pondered my today and my future.

Everyone should read this book. If you wanna know how to have a better relationship with literally anyone read this book. It's changed how I see myself, it's changed my relationships with my Dad and brothers and every other man in my life, and it's been nothing but good. So grateful for it!

This book may have *saved my relationship* within 8 hours of my starting the book, and I'm only 15% of the way through it!!First, let me qualify my background, and why I bought this book:I'm an expert on men.No, really.Oh sure, lots of people may say that, but I actually mean that I am a professional expert on men. No, I'm not a lady of the evening, I'm something much lower than that - I'm a lawyer. In fact, I was one of the very first fathers' rights lawyers in the United States, with a career spanning about 30 years working with single fathers, and a *lot* of that was counselling and coaching them. So, I got, very early on, how men communicate, filter, react, share, bottle up (did I mention react) *much* differently than women, and how the translation that takes place between "she speaks, he hears" and "he speaks, she hears" is *so very vital to understand*! (Oh yeah, I'm also an author of a book on men - and coach about the differences between men and women - specifically for single fathers.)I'm also very familiar with what our society is doing to our boys (and causing our women and girls to do to our boys - have you ever seen the "Boys are stupid, throw rocks at them" products? No? Here you go:  Boys Are Stupid Throw Rocks At Them t-shirt  Think you could get away with a "girls are stupid, throw rocks at them" product line?)I actually heard about this book from a friend who was basically mocking it. That made me curious, so I came to Amazon to look it up. And, based on my work with men, and advocacy for boys, when I saw *men* posting reviews, saying things like "I have to say that this book blew my mind. Having a feminist mother and growing up in a time when men have been looked down upon for being men, I grew up knowing masculine shame," I knew I had to get it and read it.I have to tell you it was *so* refreshing to read another woman who gets it! And who gets that by trying to make men be like women we are not only doing a disservice to men, and screwing up our boys, but that we are doing a disservice to *ourselves* (women). By *honouring* the differences, it allows men to also honour *our* differences.But much more importantly, in this book Armstrong really explains how what we do to men is causing *us* (again, women) so much frustration, resentment, and anger, and robbing us of the joy *we ourselves* can experience.No, this is *not* a Dr. Laura-esque "wrap yourself in saran wrap and submit to your man" book. Not at all. It's a "understand the differences, and speak to his strengths instead of bitching about his weaknesses - which are often *your* perception of 'weakness', and not really a weakness at all - it's a *difference*" book.(Ok, I feel like I'm getting on a soapbox now...let me climb back down (I'm only 5'3, so I need that soapbox).)What is interesting about this book is that rather than a typical "do this, do that" tome, it's a narrative told in the form of a story. Sure, some of it is a little hokey ("frog farmer"? Really?) but the brilliance of this is that it gets the point across in a way that isn't all "do this, do that" or preachy.So, I got the book last night, and started reading it. I got about 15% of the way through (got the Kindle edition, that's how I know). Then I put out the light and went to sleep.This morning, I had a conversation with TMWMITU (The Most Wonderful Man in the Universe). It was a conversation - about a potentially touchy subject - which could have gone very, *very* wrong. But, as the conversation was unfolding I suddenly remembered the things I'd read last night...and ohmygod...this was *exactly* that sort of situation. So I took a deep breath, and practiced what I'd read just 8 hours earlier. Which blew me away because, in case I haven't mentioned it, I've been working in this field for nearly 30 years. But that's the magic of this book - you read it like a story, and it sticks in your head for when you need it.And guess what? ...TAHDAH! What *could* have been an awful, even relationship-ending conversation, instead went down the path of a *fantastic* conversation, with a wonderful resolution, and me feeling closer to him and happier than ever! (Now, wouldn't you like to feel that way?? If your answer is "no", then I submit that you need this book even more, because you may well be holding on to a lot of resentment, and self-righteous anger.)Because this book is truly right in my own wheelhouse of my expertise, I sincerely invite any of you to drop me a line (click on my name and "see more" to find my email address) and ask me any question that you may have, and that you think I could be helpful in answering.

If you wish to have a different relationship with men, this is the perfect your guide to your transformation. But don't take my word for it. See for yourself.

From my perspective being male, I found the information presented by Alison in her book The Queens Code to be on point. I don't recall there being anything I found objectional. I loved the way the storyline and the information flowed.In my own life, I have tried to convey some of the same sentiments, definitely not as articulate or concise as Alison presents them here.Three things I truly appreciate about this book: 1. It helped me to clearly understand what I was feeling. 2. It helped me to clarify the ideas I wanted to convey. 3. The Queens code speaks to an issue long plaguing male/female relationships and offered a solution.Take aways:- Building up a man gets the woman what she needs faster and more often than tearing him down.- Emasculating men never motivates them.- Open communication, honesty, and setting expectations are important in any relationship.- Sharing with your partner what you need from them and what it means or provide to you when they do it.I love this book. It is a great read and I have recommended it to whoever I believe will benefit from reading it, male or female. I have even bought copies for my girls, ages 33 and 25. My hope is that when they have completed the book, we can have an open discussion about the concepts presented by Alison.

Dang. I wish I’d read this before I lost the love of my life. I think it would’ve saved our relationship… I’m using the principles in it to communicate with every man in my life now (including my adult sons. And including random Tinder opportunities) It frickin’ works.

Every woman should be given this book when they are young. They may not heed the advice right away, but I bet they will eventually long for this knowledge. I started implementing this in my relationship with my husband and our marriage has never been better.

Alison has done such an incredible job with this book.I have learned so much in the less than a week it took to read this book. It is so good that I purposely slowed down my reading speed in order to stretch the book out and make it last longer.My relationship to men has changed radically, and this book has made a major impact on my life! I have utilized what I have learned from this book, and I wish that all who identify as women would be given this book in school!I’m now reading the books that Alison has written before Queen’s Code without even realizing they are written first. I looked up the chronological order, and will be reading all of the books.The Queen’s Code is so incredible, I will read it again and again to glean new knowledge.There are an immense amount of “ah-ha!” moments, and I can’t stop talking about this book. I’ve recommended it to friends and family.If I could give more than 5 stars, I would.

I was hooked completely from the first chapter: could not put this down. Hoping to read this over and over again.This is life changing wisdom and every woman needs to read it! I finally understand so much.

Life changing book. It’s soooo well written and your mindset is being transformed. Men are great. I love them!! This book is gold 🥇

Después de mucha lectura sobre esta temática en libros de espiritualidad, neurociencia y psicología, gracias a una querida amiga tuve la oportunidad de leer este libro que ha venido a traerme el "cómo" entender a un hombre, como tratarlo y sobre todo como respetarlo y amarlo. Después de muchos años de sentir un bloque de hielo en mi corazón que no podía desintegrar con nada en relación a los hombres, esta lectura me ha apoyado a ver más allá de mí misma y el entendimiento que me ha dado es invaluable, hoy me siento abierta no sólo a los hombres, sino al amor mismo, me conozco mejor y puedo "comprender", algo sumamente valioso para mí. Recomiendo este libro a cualquier mujer que quiera dejar ir el pasado y comenzar a vivir realmente desde su corazón para experimentar la felicidad genuina que le pertenece en relación a los hombres y especialmente, en relación a ella misma.

I rarely review books on Amazon (simply because I never seem to have the time) and I have never followed an author on Amazon. Alison Armstrong and her wise and precious teachings have inspired me to do both. And much more. They have also given me the time to do both. . . Because I am learning how to receive in ways I have never experienced before, and this is giving me much more time to be in my life.Both this, and her preceding book ‘Keys to the Kingdom’ (which needs to be read FIRST), are beyond value. Gentle, practical, inclusive and deeply wise, they give men and women back to themselves by helping us to understand the inherent gifts of our sex and that of the opposite sex, and by teaching us how to navigate the differences and communicate effectively within them. Men have become wise and beautiful beings in my eyes, towering sources of strength and kindness who give deep structure to life; women have become magical and mysterious weavers of beauty and meaning, attending and receiving life in ways that enable its warm and wondrous flourishing.I feel grateful for the wisdom of Alison Armstrong who holds both the masculine and feminine in such regard and delivers so much wisdom with so much kindness and humour. The book is written with true skill and mastery and is utterly enjoyable. Part romance consisting of the stories of three couples of varying ages and degrees of commitment, part practical manual for how relationships can deeply work, and part paean to the wonders of both sexes, it is a book to cherish. If you are open to it, it will open you, your heart, your life.

Pourrait bien révolutionner votre rapport au masculin. Et permettre de mettre un stop à l'émasculation ambiante des hommes qui cherchent pourtant à être au mieux de leur capacité à offrir quelque chose au monde qui soit apprécié. Les hommes perdent leurs repères dans le monde actuel, et voilà pourquoi, selon Allison.Le mouvement des "connasses" que je constate où, de manière assez amère, l'on critique la gente masculine, la rabaissant parfois, manquant de compréhension pour leur façon de fonctionner et pour ce qu'ils cherchent à offrir aux femmes, considérant les hommes juste comme des bêtes de sexe immatures qu'il faudrait dresser, a souvent blessé des hommes nobles et sensibles qui ne savent juste plus comment se faire respecter ni comment se sentir vraiment bien à leur place. La guidance d'Allison est souveraine. Un bon apprentissage de base de la façon de fonctionner très humaine des deux sexes. A prendre en compte, puis à adapter à la situation au cas par cas. C'est, même si riche, juste à prendre en compte pour ne plus juger hâtivement la gente masculine. M'a beaucoup appris, et m'a permis de développer un rapport encore plus bienveillant et empreint de patience et de compréhension avec les autres.