What Were You Thinking: Helping Kids 6-9 Learn to Control Impulses (Executive Function)

I read this to my 6 year old to help reinforce his own personal awareness with topics that he struggles with or to help prevent a struggle due to his ADHD. Being aware of what we need to work on is the first step to making changes and hopefully by doing this we can prevent our children from future frustrations and disappointments within themselves. It is easier to mold them into respectful, responsible children at a younger age than it will be to break bad habits later on in life. With that said this book is one of many that we read as our "self help" kinda books. Every night I choose 1 book to add to the mix of his own book choices, depending on what I am trying to make him aware of and teach him coping skills in regards to things he struggled with that day or week. I hope this list is helpful. I know I always LOVE finding someone’s review that lists more great books on these kind of topics as I am always looking for more resources!This is a list of a few of my personal favorites age range about 4-8Helping kids about making good choices:• That Rule Doesn't Apply to Me! (Responsible Me!)• But It's Not My Fault! (Responsible Me!)• What Were You Thinking? Learning to Control Your Impulses (Executive Function)• My Mouth Is a Volcano! (talking over/interrupting people)• What If Everybody Did That? (environmental awareness)• LarryBoy and the Foolish Fig from Faraway (making good choices when friends aren’t)• The Berenstain Bears Show Some Respect (talking nice to others)• The Berenstain Bears and the Trouble with Chores• Squirmy Wormy: How I Learned to Help Myself (more autism focused)• God, I Need to Talk to You about…. Series (very short and to the point! from child’s point of view)Lying, Bad Manners, Whining, Laziness, Sharing, Stealing, My Bad Temper, Paying Attention, Hurting Others, Disrespect, Greed, vandalism, bad words, being a bad sport, video games, bullying, cheating, homework, healthy eating.Helping kids handle their anger:• Mad Isn't Bad: A Child's Book about Anger (Elf-Help Books for Kids)• I Just Don't Like the Sound of No! My Story About Accepting No for an Answer and Disagreeing the Right Way! (Best Me I Can Be) (WE LOVE THIS BOOK!!!!)• Angry Octopus: An Anger Management StoryHelping Kids keep themselves safe: In all reality we aren’t always around to keep our kids safe, but we can give them the tools they need to handle themselves if a situation arises.• A Little Book About Safety (teaches kids exactly what to do in case they get lost) (WE LOVE THIS BOOK!! Perfect for 3-5yr olds, special needs children, ALL CHILDREN)Please read these books before reading them to your child ensure they are age/maturity level appropriate. I chose just a few pages here or there when my son was 4 as a preventative measure.• An Exceptional Children's Guide to Touch: Teaching Social and Physical Boundaries to Kids (Good book to help discuss a difficult topic! I have passed this book around to many friends! Awareness is key to Prevention)• I Said No! A kid-to-kid guide to keeping your private parts private• My Body Belongs to MeHelping kids Learn about God and teaching good Morals to live by (VeggieTales)• Every Day with God: 365 Daily Devos for Boys• Growing Day by Day: 365 Daily Devos for BoysHelping Kids learn responsibility with money:• Junior's Adventures: the Boxed Set• The Berenstain Bears' Dollars and Sense• Financial Peace JuniorParent books: I have read over 30 books and these are the ones I liked• Raising Boys With ADHD: Secrets for Parenting Healthy, Happy Sons (LOVE this book, great resources. I have been using it for 3 years now. It is categorized by age and the challenges that come with that age)• Parenting Children with ADHD: 10 Lessons That Medicine Cannot Teach (APA Lifetools)• Smart Money Smart Kids: Raising the Next Generation to Win with Money• Driven to distraction• The strong willed child• Parenting isn’t for cowards (I just started reading but seem good so far)

What Were You Thinking? by Bryan Smith and illustrated by Lisa M. Griffin addresses common moments from a child’s life. As many parents and teachers can vouch, the answer to the title question is frequently that the child wasn’t thinking at all; they operated on impulse. Or, they were thinking but their behavior was highly unlikely to produce their expected result.This book helps kids see that doing the first thing that comes to mind may not be their best choice. It might even accomplish the opposite of their intended goal. It also shows how kids sometimes expect something to be funny when it can actually cause others–classmates, teachers, coaches and parents– to be annoyed instead of entertained. Sometimes the “cost” of the laughter they seek, far exceeds the momentary rush of any attention.The illustrations invite exploration of the book’s theme and make obvious that Braden’s idea of funny does not necessarily match his classmates” feelings. This can lead to conversations about the range of responses one can see within an entire classroom of kids.What Were You Thinking? outlines a simple four step strategy which kids can practice to help them smooth out their responses and ensure that the result they get is the one which they want. A brief Tips for Parents and Educators is included which offers further information on how to guide children to develop better impulse control. Can also open conversation about intentions & how humor doesn’t lessen the pain of hurtful remarks/behavior.AQ Lens: Kids who have experienced trauma, grief and or loss may have weak impulse control, high distractibility. Or they may have been taught negative and/or inadequate behavior strategies. In addition to learning better strategies, these kids may also have to unlearn negative strategies.This book offers another tool for helping kids fine-tune their emotional literacy and expand their menu of choices. By exploring the gap between intended goal and actual results, families can teach kids to recognize and choose strategies that serves them better.--Gayle H. Swift, ABC, Adoption & Me: A Multicultural Picture Book"

Our 4-yr-old son was not following directions at school. His teacher had come back from maternity leave and he had gotten into some bad habits while she was gone. After reading this book he memorized all the steps and repeats them multiple times a day. It's only been one week but he has been a different child entirely -- an angel!We had been talking to him for 9 months about "making good choices" but had never qualified that a good choice was one that makes the situation better (and a bad choice one that makes the situation worse). Apparently that was key! I'm not surprised that this was written by an educator who probably saw a lot of success by clarifying this distinction with his students.I'm sure my son's amazing behavior won't last forever, but it's great to simply know that he has it in him to control his impulses. We are going to make little print-outs of the 4 steps to let him have them at school and share these tips with his teacher so she can prompt him with the same language.Great, great book!

Great book for kids because it helps them relate to their own issues. My 7-year old reads it to herself and is interested in using some of the techniques to help her with her own impulse issues.