Manjul Publishing House No More Mr. Nice Guys

No More Mr. Nice Guy is a tough but really helpful read if you’ve spent most of your life people-pleasing and putting yourself last. What I appreciated most is how clearly the book shows that being a “nice guy” isn’t actually kind or healthy—it’s usually about avoiding conflict, hiding parts of yourself, and hoping other people will finally give you the approval you’re not giving yourself. That hit hard. The book helped me realize: • Saying no doesn’t make you selfish. • You can set boundaries and still be a caring, loving person. • Real confidence comes from being honest about what you want, not from trying to be perfect or “easygoing” all the time. It’s very direct, sometimes uncomfortably so, but that’s also why it works. If you’ve ever felt resentful, overlooked, or like you’re always the one accommodating everyone else, this book gives you language, insight, and practical steps to start changing that.

Stumbled upon this book years ago, and I’ve reread it several times since. I’ve also given it as a gift to family and friends more times than I can count. The title can be misleading—this isn’t a book about becoming rude or selfish. It’s about learning to be genuine and honest, instead of pretending to be someone you’re not. What I appreciate most is how practical it is. I don’t have patience for books filled with vague advice or abstract ideas like “love yourself” without explaining how. This book gives clear, down-to-earth exercises and examples that actually make sense. It’s one of the few self-improvement books that helped me put real change into practice.

Glover in "No More Mr Nice Guy" addresses one of the biggest struggles and heartaches for men in recent years, the dreaded Nice Guy Syndrome. And he succeeds in pointing out the causes and cures for said condition so that "Nice Guys" can become "Nice Guys With Balls" or "Good Men". He makes his case through first examining what he thinks are the root causes that produce these type of men. Then he works to present straightforward solutions to changing said behavior so men can longer be held back by these tendencies. Throughout the book he cites accounts from his own experiences and that of others he's coached interacted with over the years, he presents activities and suggestions to help "break free" from the nice guy syndrome and more. I personally found very little issues with the book. Glover delivers his message articulately and intelligently with humor and style. I do feel though that Glover's book is best read in conjunction with other books in order to insure you find your best self. I would recommend "Rules of The Game" by Neil Strauss first and foremost. It contains a 30 day life style change program and really helps you see and reach your full potential. My other recommendations are "The Solution To Social Anxiety" & "The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us" these both go into the deeper wounds that may be causing your issues and how to heal. You may also want to pick up "The Selfish Gene" if your really wanting to know more about why people behave the way they do. You may want pickup "The Geeks Shall Inherit The Earth" to embrace and understand your uniqueness and why it often gets you persecuted. And lastly "The Rational Male" (volumes 1 & 2) for the most update modern take and understanding breakdown of the romance dating landscape. Also while Glover's book is targeted at men it is a good read for woman. If you were a woman I would pick up it and the other books I suggested but also "Why Men Love Bitches From Doormat To Dreamgirl". It's pretty much "No More Mr Nice Guy" for girls. I came across Glovers book, as well as many of the others, by chance and they changed my life forever. I just wished I had read them sooner. Glover's hard work and culumtive efforts have resulted in a master piece that deserves a place in the self help books hall of fame. Pick it up, and really take what he says to heart, and you won't be disappointed. 5/5 Stars!

I am basically a poster child for this topic / book. 80% of the material I agreed with on the first read, 10% made me think, and the last 10% I just don't want to admit to being true. The Good: It's the only book I know of or found that presents the issue of overcompensating through niceness in this fashion. Hard to explain, but the writing style is a lot more in your face and not like other "self help" type books. It makes for a quick and enjoyable read while getting to the point. The meat of the chapters is good material. I found myself on many occasions reading a section and actually feeling worse about myself since it was so true. Don't take that the wrong way, the pain of realization was a useful exercise. The truth hurts. The Bad: The anecdotes from the author's clients just didn't do it for me. I had a hard time relating to any of them (they do focus on existing relationships like someone else mentioned) and read as adverstisements instead of helpful, substantial examples. The exercises weren't all that appealing either, but that isn't necessarily the book's fault. My biggest gripe with the book is the label of "proven plan" on the cover. I found this to be lacking. Admittedly, I didn't work the exercises...but to me that is not a "proven plan". That is "a list of exercises." I was expecting "Do this, this, and this and here's why. Start small, work your way up here's how." (That's a plan) Conclusion: The book is totally worth the money. It is NOT a pick up book. It's much more useful and important than that on a deeper level. A pick up book will not help you if you are one of these "Nice Guys". Check it out for a decent read, but don't expect miracles since the "plan" part is a little light.

Very enjoyable read, great examples and some good strategies to implement Look formats to trying out these techniques and would recommend

Good book for men that are still are gentlemen, but need to learn how to be a little bit more aggressive. It's creates a work in progress.

I never knew being a nice guy had this many pitfalls, but this book help me uncover fear, disappointing other people and how to be mindful of a victim mentality. Excellent!

This might easily be one of the best self-help books I have read in a long time. The very basic message of this book is: "Men should stop seeking approval and be exactly who they are". By seeking approval in relationships and at work, and trying to do things right all the time, nice-guys do NOT get what they want. They come across as needy, are stuck in mediocrity and fail to reach their potential in their professional lives. The reasons are straightforward, yet, many men fail to understand. To give a few examples: 1. Men who are needy and seek the approval of women are not sexy 2. Men who want to do everything right in their professional lives often fail to quit a dysfunctional job or ask for a salary increase or promotion 3. Men who focus on the pleasure of their partner while having sex don't get the sex they want (and neither does the partner) Glover outlines the psychological mechanisms behind the "nice-guy" behavior and gives the reader some practical advice, how they can brake through the nice-guy paradigm. It clearly shows that "nice guys" are often not as nice as they seem, as their seeking of approval contains dishonesty, high expectations of other people, and the illusion that if they are nice and do everything right, they will be liked by everybody. Also, they often feel like a victim and don't take their lives into their own hands. I particularly liked the "breaking through activities" that are easy to follow. They include the setting of personal rules, such as: "if it frightens you, do it", "no matter what happens, you will handle it" and "stop blaming. Victims never succeed." To sum up, this book is a fulfilling journey for every man who wants to start working on getting the live he really wants. It is the first step to detaching yourself from the judgments of other people and live a life true to your own values.

Hats off to the Author, very well illustrated on the behaviour patterns of the nice guys. Must read for all the soft and empathetic guys to introspect themselves and come out of the victim mindset to get their needs met.

Eye opening book for any men who think they are nice to others, but still unhappy themselves. If you think “I’m nice and I do the right thing for everyone, so I’m sure things will be great for me soon” this is the book for you. It’s not a book about how to be a jerk, it’s a book about how to be fair with yourself, figure yourself out, and make sense of why you feel stuck in spite of doing all the right things.

Writer is spot on with his observation on this topic. And direct straightforward advice. Good book.

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