The Courage To Be Disliked: A single book can change your life (Courage To series) (Cover may vary): The life changing multi-million copy global bestseller

Great book, would definitely recommend! Life changing thoughts. Read on kindle

Good read

I read this last autumn so I’m fuzzy on some of the details however the lesson of this book remains with me. I’m not the sort of person to say that a book changed my life but this book deeply impacted me (it changed my life). I’ve been “stuck” for decades - too much in my thoughts and feelings, too much in the thoughts and feelings of others. Having read this book, my life has transformed. My worldview and approach to life, especially interpersonal interactions and my internal state is so different. I am much mirr in control, at ease in myself and that is *major* for someone like me. No, every day is not perfect but my baseline - my bar - has risen and will never fall again. It’s not a long book but I read this very slowly, pages at a time over a few months so I could fully absorb it. Sometimes I had to go over the same pages a few times to get my head around concepts which felt so alien to me. Sometimes I just felt frustrated with what I was reading and needed a break. I found it quite challenging to read in parts, feeling “called out” when I recognised how my own thoughts and actions were keeping me stuck - and even more so that my stuckness was a choice, one which was serving me in ways I didn’t realise. It was a hard pill to swallow but being able to digest it privately, slowly and reading in my own time gave the opportunity for it to sink in, in a non-threatening way. I was able to see the light on the other side of all of this. I needed to understand and receive this information by book - if someone had come up to me and told me this stuff I’d have wanted to punch them in the face and shut it all down. Books are good. Books are safe spaces. Take your time with it. I’ve wanted to gift this book to others who seem stuck but don’t feel it’s my place to impose it on anyone. I think many of us, especially those who have been harmed, will find it *very* challenging to take accountability for the way our lives have panned out post-harm. For that reason I only ever let people know I’ve read it, that I’ve benefited from it and leave it at that. If you’re reading this and feel tired of your stuckness and feel ready to be challenged, privately, in your own time, and in a safe way, I highly recommend giving it a go. Wishing all of you well, wherever you are on your journeys and whether you loved or hated this book.

This book solidified my independent thinking and changed my perspective on social acceptance. It offers insight into personal responsibility both from the angle of accepting your own while unburdening yourself of the pressures of taking on the tasks of others, encouraging a mindset geared for growth.

Without meaning to sound patronising, I would say people of a certain age will learn very little from this book. The fact that it’s a conversation between a ‘philosopher’ and a ‘youth’ maybe highlights this point. The 2 main takeaways (in their most basic form) are that a) you shouldn’t let events from the past dictate your present/future and b) you shouldn’t spend your life trying to please others…both of which I would imagine most level headed people have worked out for themselves, in one way or another, by their mid-30s. It’s quite an interesting read and examples are articulated in interesting ways…my main takeaway being that its actually quite surprising how much many aspects of our lives are inadvertently spent trying to please others (in an attempt to please ourselves): however, the book’s dialogue soon gets quite repetitive and is clearly set up to argue one specific philosophical way of thinking. While the conversation does touch on a range of philosophical theories, they’re always explained very basically and briefly in order to be easily dismissed in favour of the authors’ particular favoured philosophical viewpoint. The ‘youths’ arguments against these are also very weak and not particularly interesting…also, again, clearly set up to favour the authors’ preferred way of thinking. The ‘youths’ life experience examples also being very bland and generally uninteresting (for example, one of his main upsets in life being that his father talked him into going to college for further studies as opposed to him putting his foot down and following his preferred option of an taking an apprenticeship). As I say, nothing life-changing but quite an interesting read all the same.

Very interesting it changed my life Amazing condition

Absolutely amazing book and a discovery for me about Adler’s psychology and theories

Hard to apply in life but why not , interesting facts , love it 😍

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Doesn't make sense, and there's no real logic to it, but it gives you a certain constructive perspective on how to approach life. If you choose one self-help book, this is the one.